Who said life was fair? I think it is though. It may not be even handed in that everyone is dealt the same hand but we all have the same opportunities to choose how to play our hand.
As Victor Frankl says in his book Men’s Search for Meaning, in which hel detailed how even when everything terrible that can possibly be done to a human being had been done to him, he realized he still had the freedom to choose his response to it.:
“Successful people are positive, and successful people help each other become more successful.”
If you do a search now to find out if selfish people are more likely to be rich, rather than poor, I do not think you can find the truth. Instead you will get a biased response, which would suggest that you have no power over your wealth. I think the opposite is true. Co-operation and collaboration with other people is part of our evolutionary biology, as the Guardian and Psychology Today both reveal, scientists found in 2012. Foragers and hunters would survive more easily if they worked together and dominant people, apparently, were shunned in these societies.
These finds extend to suggest that mean and selfish people are actually not rewarded by evolution.
Therefore, how can our attitude, approach and actions make us wealthier, healthier and happier?
- Have no regrets – look for the best in everything.
- Recognise things that have gone better than you planned.
- Find a purpose for your life.
- Be generous.
- Look out for others without expecting anything in return.
- Take ownership – learn to choose responsibility over blame. This puts you in charge
- Be in the present instead of dwelling on the past or second-guessing the future.
- Respond directly instead of complaining to a third party.
- Look for patterns of similarity with other people rather than focuses on differences.
- Aim to see reality as it is by continuing to learn to see ahead more clearly.
- Find out that reality is always more pleasant that the voices in your head.
- Think about others as much as yourself.
- Anticipate the needs of anyone you want someone to help you.
- Listen actively, not passively, to understand what has been said accurately.
- Be direct and honest at all times.
- Speak up for your self whenever you want to.
- Accept the darkness to see the light.
- Keep present to other people when in company.
- Tell others how you feel rather than act out.
- If you don’t like how you are treated, look at yourself first before challenging it.
- Identify the problem and solution rather than attributing blame.
- Learn to say no when you want to without fear.
- If you believe in something, never give up.
- Don’t let others tell you what you can achieve. Find out for yourself.
- Don’t take what other people say personally.
- Take everything as potentially useful feedback, take it or leave it in your own time.
- Get to know people without judging them – if you don’t like them don’t spend time with them.
- Let yourself get things wrong without shame.
- Be open and honest in conversations. Don’t try to hide information (being covert).
- Communication is sharing information. People are united by shared information. .
- Be resourceful, resilient, productive and creative.
- Do things because you want to, not to compensate.
- If someone talks to you like a loser, walk away from the conversation.
- Everyone has their own answers so they don’t need your advice.
- Follow your instincts and do what you think is right.
- If people invade your boundaries, tell them immediately.
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